2 Revelations

So it's been a while and the reason is two fold. First I have enough papers to write for school. Second is my first revelation which is I need conflict to motivate me to write. I don't necessarily write about my conflicts but conflict in my life leads me to be able to write more often. Okay and so does not having to write at least one paper a week.

So my second revelation is one I found very interesting. I think the reason we dislike people is due to ignorance about who they are. Now realize that I'm using the word 'dislike' and not something more powerful like detest, hate or loath. No I have found it much easier to like people for who they are by automatically assuming that my initial reactions to them are wrong and not assuming that I know why the speak or act the way they do. I know someone who can be unbelievably rude and it shocks people but if you know them you realize that they don't mean it, it's just that they don't see their comments from the same perspective as you. I have found that it is like that with most people really. We make assumptions about what people mean by what they say or the actions they have done instead of asking. This of course is utterly stupid, a stupidity which I am also cursed with. We don't think like others because we aren't them! So why is it that we make assumptions about them? I mean my initial reactions to half the people I met when I first came to SSU were totally off base and I don't want to even think about how it would have gone is I'd clung to those assumptions. I know I don't think like others and therefore don't act in the way or for the reasons that others expect me to and it has caused me a lot of grief over the years. In light of that how can I continue to perpetuate the cycle? I can't and won't. I will do everything I can to stomp on that first impulse and see the person for who they are. Too ask the question when I don't know instead of assuming that I do. Truth is it would help prevent a lot of strife in my life and the lives of others. Maybe if I start then others will stop writing me off too... No forget it, if you want to write me off go ahead. I'll not waste my time trying to convince you of who I am, if you want to know just ask.